Learning to say ‘No’ in a healthy way improves our lives!

Posted on 2023-04-13 by Jonathan-McGuinness

Healthy and truthful ways to say ‘No’

These alternatives effectively communicate that I have other priorities without apologizing or reducing my capacity.

They are assertive and respectful of my own time and commitments, while still acknowledging the other person’s interest and effort.

I’d love to help, but I’m currently occupied with another task.

Thank you for thinking of me, but my schedule is currently full.

I appreciate your interest, but at this time, I have other priorities right now.

While I would like to help with that, I have other commitments that require my attention first.

I’m currently focusing on other projects, but I appreciate the opportunity.

I appreciate you reaching out to me, but I’m not in a position to help with that at the moment.

My attention is currently required elsewhere, but thank you for considering me.

My current workload prevents me from assisting with that, but I appreciate your interest.

While that is not on my priorities to address right now, I appreciate your consideration.

My current priorities do not allow me to assist with that at this time, but thank you for thinking of me.

Apologizing and reducing your capacity can undermine your integrity and self-worth because it sends the message that you are not capable or worthy of meeting the other person’s request. This can create a negative self-image and damage your confidence and self-esteem.

When you apologize excessively or make excuses for not being able to help, you may come across as insecure or unconfident in your abilities. This can also make the other person question your reliability and competence, which can negatively impact your professional relationships.

On the other hand, refusing requests in a healthy way involves being assertive and respectful of both your own boundaries and the other person’s needs. You can still decline requests while maintaining your integrity and self-worth by being honest and transparent about your current priorities and limitations.

For example, healthy ways to refuse a request could include:

– Acknowledging the other person’s request and thanking them for their interest, but explaining that you are currently occupied with other tasks and are not able to help at the moment.
– Being honest and transparent about your schedule and workload, and explaining that you have other commitments that require your attention first.
– Suggesting alternative options or resources that could help the other person address their request, while still respecting your own boundaries and limitations.

Unhealthy ways to refuse a request could include:

– Ignoring or dismissing the other person’s request without any explanation or communication.
– Making false excuses or blaming external factors for your inability to help.
– Apologizing excessively or making yourself seem inferior or incompetent in order to avoid the request.

It’s important to remember that setting boundaries and respecting your own needs is not selfish or negative. By being honest and assertive in your communication, you can maintain your integrity and self-worth while still being respectful and considerate of others.

Self-abandonment, what is it?

Posted on 2023-03-30 by Jonathan-McGuinness

Self-abandonment refers to a pattern of behavior in which an individual disregards their own needs, desires, and values in favor of pleasing others or conforming to external expectations. This can manifest in various ways, such as neglecting one’s physical or emotional health, tolerating mistreatment or abuse, compromising personal boundaries, or suppressing one’s true feelings and opinions to avoid conflict or rejection.

Self-abandonment can lead to feelings of emptiness, low self-worth, and a lack of authenticity in one’s relationships and experiences. It can also contribute to mental health issues such as anxiety, depression, and substance abuse. It’s important to note that self-abandonment is not the same as selflessness or self-sacrifice, which involve conscious choices to prioritize the well-being of others over oneself. Self-abandonment, on the other hand, is characterized by a habitual and unconscious tendency to undermine one’s own needs and desires in a way that is harmful to one’s overall sense of self.

How is self abandonment different from selflessness and self-sacrifice?

Self-abandonment, selflessness, and self-sacrifice are all related to the concept of putting others before oneself, but there are important differences between them:

Self-abandonment involves neglecting one’s own needs, desires, and values in favor of pleasing others or conforming to external expectations. It is an unhealthy pattern of behavior that can lead to feelings of emptiness, low self-worth, and a lack of authenticity in one’s relationships and experiences.

Selflessness, on the other hand, involves willingly prioritizing the needs of others over one’s own needs, without neglecting one’s own well-being. Selflessness can be a positive and healthy trait, as long as it is balanced with self-care and self-respect.

Self-sacrifice involves making conscious choices to prioritize the well-being of others over one’s own well-being, even if it involves personal sacrifice or hardship. Self-sacrifice can be a noble and courageous act, but it is important to avoid sacrificing too much of oneself and to ensure that one’s own needs are still being met.

In summary, self-abandonment involves neglecting one’s own needs and desires, while selflessness involves prioritizing the needs of others while still taking care of oneself, and self-sacrifice involves making conscious choices to prioritize the well-being of others over one’s own well-being.

How Strong Is Your WORD?

Posted on 2023-03-082023-03-16 by Jonathan-McGuinness

Our Word is our strongest indicator to ourselves that– we are clear on our direction– we are clear on our priorities– we are focused enough to manage what is in our life When we are NOT following through on any of our actions, we really need to– clarify our direction– clarify our priorities– eliminate unnecessary.Our Word is our strongest indicator to ourselves that– we are clear on our direction– we are clear on our priorities– we are focused enough to manage what is in our life When we are NOT following through on any of our actions, we really need to– clarify our direction– clarify our priorities– eliminate unnecessary.Our Word is our strongest indicator to ourselves that– we are clear on our direction– we are clear on our priorities– we are focused enough to manage what is in our life When we are NOT following through on any of our actions, we really need to– clarify our direction– clarify our priorities– eliminate unnecessary …

Does Panic Disappear After Repeated Exposure?

Posted on 2023-02-162023-03-16 by Jonathan-McGuinness

Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn’t …. and it depends on the type of exposure. Years ago, I had a motorbike accident on a motorway, and yes I survived. From 2003 to 2010, I was in what we call trauma. Sitting in a car or any vehicle closer than lets say 20 meters to Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn’t …. and it depends on the type of exposure. Years ago, I had a motorbike accident on a motorway, and yes I survived. From 2003 to 2010, I was in what we call trauma. Sitting in a car or any vehicle closer than lets say 20 meters to Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn’t …. and it depends on the type of exposure. Years ago, I had a motorbike accident on a motorway, and yes I survived. From 2003 to 2010, I was in what we call trauma. Sitting in a car or any vehicle closer than lets say 20 meters to Sometimes it does and sometimes it doesn’t …. and it depends on the type of exposure. Years ago, I had a motorbike accident on a motorway, and yes I survived. From 2003 to 2010, I was in what we call trauma. Sitting in a car or any vehicle closer than lets say 20 meters to